Anger is a Feeling — Not a Failure
Learn how to understand it, manage it, and express it with purpose.
Kelowna Anger Management
Anger is Natural. But When It Controls You — It Costs You.
Everyone feels anger. It’s a valid emotional response to frustration, pain, injustice, or perceived threat. But when anger starts controlling your behaviour, hurting your relationships, or affecting your reputation, it’s time to take a deeper look.
At Empowered Solutions Counselling, we offer Kelowna anger management therapy that helps you understand your anger, identify your triggers, and develop healthier responses — without shame or judgment.
Whether you’ve been court-mandated, urged by a loved one, or simply recognize it’s time for change, you’re in the right place.
What is Anger Management?
Anger management isn’t about suppressing your feelings. It’s about building awareness, control, and communication.
Through one-on-one or group sessions, we help you:
Recognize your anger before it escalates
Understand the difference between anger, aggression, and rage
Learn to enter conflict assertively rather than reactively
Practice de-escalation techniques that really work
Discover the roots of your emotional responses — not just the symptoms
Set and maintain healthy boundaries
Rebuild damaged relationships with compassion and clarity
Anger, Aggression and Rage: What’s the difference?
Anger
True anger can be a response to hurt, frustration, disappointment or threat (real or imagined). It’s the signal, or alarm, that something is not right, that we do not feel okay about what we’re observing.
Expressing anger is all about the controlled notification that we feel threatened in some way. It’s communicated assertively, without hysterics; ”I’m angry, here’s why, and here’s what I need…” Most importantly , anger is about something that is happening in the present moment.
Aggression
Aggression is a behaviour. It is an abusive way of behaving verbally, emotionally or physically. Like anger, aggression looks very different from anger.
Aggression blames the other for one’s feelings. It perceives the other’s actions as intentionally insulting or disrespectful.
Aggression is impulsive, and therefore comes on quickly. It can also take several hours, even days, to subside.
Rage
Rage is a response to a threat to pride, status. or dignity. The roots of rage are in childhood, when a kid was helpless against abusive adults or older kids. When something in the present triggers an old memory, the reaction is to the memory, not the present event.
Rage is not a feeling, so much as it is an emergency defence activated in the fight or flight system.
Rage can be a response to shame, abandonment, exposure, power and control, and disinhibition.
What You'll Learn in Anger Management Counselling
In our Kelowna anger management sessions, you’ll gain tools that support both emotional self-awareness and long-term change. Expect to walk away with:
✓ Tools & techniques to manage and diffuse anger
✓ Awareness of your triggers, thought patterns, and behaviours
✓ Assertiveness strategies for healthy conflict resolution
✓ A clearer understanding of your communication style
✓ Guidance in setting healthy boundaries
✓ Ways to de-escalate tension before it explodes
We’re not here to judge. We’re here to support you in building emotional control, stronger relationships, and a better connection to yourself.
Who is Anger Management For?
Individuals required to complete counselling by court or workplace
Partners struggling to manage conflict in their relationship
Men who’ve been taught to bottle emotions until they boil over
People dealing with shame, guilt, or regret around past outbursts
Anyone ready to break the cycle of reaction and regret
If your anger is impacting your relationship, you may also benefit from our Couples Counselling services. And if you identify as male and want a space to unpack anger shaped by gender expectations, Counselling for Men might be a powerful next step.
Not Sure Where to Start? Try These Ten Tips:
Think before you speak
Express anger once calm
Use exercise to burn off tension
Take a timeout when needed
Focus on solutions, not blame
Use “I” statements, not accusations
Don’t hold grudges
Use humour to diffuse the moment
Learn calming and relaxation techniques
Know when to reach out for help
You don’t have to master this on your own — that’s what we’re here for.
In-Person or Online Sessions Available
Empowered Solutions offers Kelowna anger counselling from our private office in the Lower Mission area, as well as secure online sessions you can attend from the comfort of your home.
Wherever you are in your journey, we’ll meet you there.
Let’s Transform the Way You Relate to Anger
You’re not “too angry.” You’re not broken. You’re human — and you’re ready to grow.
Let’s turn your anger into a tool for clarity, communication, and personal power.
IN PERSON & ONLINE AVAILABLE
