Anger is a feeling.
It’s a natural, healthy, emotional response to injury or intrusion.
Empowered Solutions Anger Management
Empowered Solutions offers Kelowna based Anger management counselling solutions.
Whether you are mandated by the courts, someone has given you an ultimatum, or you simply recognize that you could benefit from some guidance, we have anger management sessions that are right for you. Learn how to recognize your anger and what triggers it, apply proven tools and techniques to manage your anger including how to enter into a conflict in the most productive way, how to de-escalate an argument and much more.
Anger, Aggression and Rage: What’s the difference?
Anger
True anger can be a response to hurt, frustration, disappointment or threat (real or imagined). It’s the signal, or alarm, that something is not right, that we do not feel okay about what we’re observing.
Expressing anger is all about the controlled notification that we feel threatened in some way. It’s communicated assertively, without hysterics; ”I’m angry, here’s why, and here’s what I need…” Most importantly , anger is about something that is happening in the present moment.
Aggression
Aggression is a behaviour. It is an abusive way of behaving verbally, emotionally or physically. Like anger, aggression looks very different from anger.
Aggression blames the other for one’s feelings. It perceives the other’s actions as intentionally insulting or disrespectful.
Aggression is impulsive, and therefore comes on quickly. It can also take several hours, even days, to subside.
Rage
Rage is a response to a threat to pride, status. or dignity. The roots of rage are in childhood, when a kid was helpless against abusive adults or older kids. When something in the present triggers an old memory, the reaction is to the memory, not the present event.
Rage is not a feeling, so much as it is an emergency defence activated in the fight or flight system.
Rage can be a response to shame, abandonment, exposure, power and control, and disinhibition.
TEN TIPS FOR ANGER
Think before you speak
Once you’re calm, express your anger
Get some exercise
Take at timeout
Identify possible solutions
Stick with “I” statements
Don’t hold a grudge
Use humour to release tension
Practice relaxation skills
Know when to seek help
What can you expect from Anger Management Sessions?
Through your sessions whether in a group format or one on one with the counsellor you can expect to gain:
Recognition of your anger
Tools & Techniques to manage your anger
Understanding of your triggers, thoughts and behaviours
How to enter into conflict assertively versus aggressively
What your communication style is and how to enhance it
What your boundaries are and how to set clean boundaries
How to de-escalate an argument
and so much more.
Empowered Solutions offers local Kelowna anger counselling options, as well as online sessions that can be attended from the comfort of your home. Take the first step today and start on your path of productive anger management.
ONE-ON-ONE AND GROUP SESSIONS AVAILABLE
